Another dawn? Just another day of pain, sorrow and struggle. As dusk buys it’s time, you count your losses in repressive resolves unto failure. A vicious cycle of sorry occurrences brims your life.
On the seas of destiny, it’s more sinking. You try shooting for the stars but your twinkle is short-lived, in the dance hall of fame it was fun though still a macabre story in the end. Impulsively, you re-think. I’m I still on my track?
You’ve crossed the lines! Doing a blind race, you’ve been disqualified time and again. You became the moon being shone the sunlight, it still gave light but was pale and the beam, too dim.
A strength blown out of proportion, the disdain for mastery in one has made you a back bencher and a sad reprobation. Feeling you’re one with all in concoction, it has cost you motion. Flee “I know all”, ‘cause it pays no Peter or Paul.
You want to fly. Find your “one”, hold fast to it, and let it so shine unto recognition. In all, never rest on your laurels because there is always one more stride to keep you among the stars and birds in the sky.
Shine! Oh destiny.
Friday, February 27, 2009
Monday, February 23, 2009
THE CO-WIN STRIDE
In our daily activities, from our wake-up alarm to nightfall there is a part of our senses beckoning, “I must win!” in the real sense of it, it is “I must win alone!” I ask, at the expense of others?
We are all subject to our perceptions about life, aggravating the firmness of our “being right”. Our daily experiences gives birth to this perception but, the question is, isn’t negativity part of these experiences? If negativity is embodied in these experiences, certainly, our perceptions tilt the scale balance of life towards wrong misconceptions and consequently, our habitual deeds emanate from the negative side of life.
Contrariwise, our experiences could be positively tilted, giving rise to positive thoughts, actions and utmost happiness. No matter where the balance is tilted, there is good news for everybody, you can always win.
You ask, in negativity is that plausible or possible? It sure is. Negativity, like I wrote earlier is the finished product of a misguided perception. A win in this situation requires the will power to understand, and change your position. In daily occurrences, you think you suffer disappointments, selfish attitudes of people and so on. Meanwhile, there is a deeper misunderstanding of the real situation. Probably, you never asked or because of your misconception, you just go ahead and assume a lot of things. The end is breeding dislikes, hatred, frequent quarrels, insults, depression and all what not. Focusing your energy on negative feelings, thoughts and ultimately, becoming a failure. Look at it this way, what if your date’s father was terribly sick, that’s why he couldn’t show up? What if your subordinate’s daughter passed out? You still expect a call in that state? Come on, would you have had that kind of will power? I don’t think so. Truth is, we are so enveloped in our own ideological world, beating ourselves up for nothing, giving no room for pragmatism, finally getting no were.
Conversely, you call yourselves “positive thinkers”, thinking positive for your selfish ambitions at the detriment of others. Feeling you could think your way to success without co-dependence. I have bad news for you, it would be short-lived. Success without negativity is failure. You ask, what is he talking about? Incidentally, is there anybody bad in its entirety? Of course not, even in that negativity of a person or an event, there is a positive something, in a deeper sense. A woman with the habit of shouting and nagging all the time, a loquacious woman, is an idea for your family growth, business boom and so on. You could catch something from her. In the same vein, what would you do to a man with bad habits, never punctual, drinks to stupor but, is one of the most productive staff in your organization? Would you throw him out? I guess not. The list could go on and on.
Real success is the entirety of all kinds of human beings in a mutually beneficial relationship; it is the fruit of interdependence unto perfection. As a positive man or woman as you say you are, you should be at the helping end of life, imparting people while taking also one or two things from the opposite party that are beneficial to you, not throwing people away because of some negative, unproductive aspects of their life.
An efficacious legacy is a co-win stride to success. Never relegate anybody, no matter the attitude or behaviour because you never know, that could be the person taking you to your next level, that could change your life forever. I always loved the adage and still do, “no man is an island”. There is nothing like a loner’s success. The longevity of your success depends on your interdependent reality therefore, it is best to strive for co-winning than lone winning. Like the saying “everybody is a winner”, if u win, I win too.
We are all subject to our perceptions about life, aggravating the firmness of our “being right”. Our daily experiences gives birth to this perception but, the question is, isn’t negativity part of these experiences? If negativity is embodied in these experiences, certainly, our perceptions tilt the scale balance of life towards wrong misconceptions and consequently, our habitual deeds emanate from the negative side of life.
Contrariwise, our experiences could be positively tilted, giving rise to positive thoughts, actions and utmost happiness. No matter where the balance is tilted, there is good news for everybody, you can always win.
You ask, in negativity is that plausible or possible? It sure is. Negativity, like I wrote earlier is the finished product of a misguided perception. A win in this situation requires the will power to understand, and change your position. In daily occurrences, you think you suffer disappointments, selfish attitudes of people and so on. Meanwhile, there is a deeper misunderstanding of the real situation. Probably, you never asked or because of your misconception, you just go ahead and assume a lot of things. The end is breeding dislikes, hatred, frequent quarrels, insults, depression and all what not. Focusing your energy on negative feelings, thoughts and ultimately, becoming a failure. Look at it this way, what if your date’s father was terribly sick, that’s why he couldn’t show up? What if your subordinate’s daughter passed out? You still expect a call in that state? Come on, would you have had that kind of will power? I don’t think so. Truth is, we are so enveloped in our own ideological world, beating ourselves up for nothing, giving no room for pragmatism, finally getting no were.
Conversely, you call yourselves “positive thinkers”, thinking positive for your selfish ambitions at the detriment of others. Feeling you could think your way to success without co-dependence. I have bad news for you, it would be short-lived. Success without negativity is failure. You ask, what is he talking about? Incidentally, is there anybody bad in its entirety? Of course not, even in that negativity of a person or an event, there is a positive something, in a deeper sense. A woman with the habit of shouting and nagging all the time, a loquacious woman, is an idea for your family growth, business boom and so on. You could catch something from her. In the same vein, what would you do to a man with bad habits, never punctual, drinks to stupor but, is one of the most productive staff in your organization? Would you throw him out? I guess not. The list could go on and on.
Real success is the entirety of all kinds of human beings in a mutually beneficial relationship; it is the fruit of interdependence unto perfection. As a positive man or woman as you say you are, you should be at the helping end of life, imparting people while taking also one or two things from the opposite party that are beneficial to you, not throwing people away because of some negative, unproductive aspects of their life.
An efficacious legacy is a co-win stride to success. Never relegate anybody, no matter the attitude or behaviour because you never know, that could be the person taking you to your next level, that could change your life forever. I always loved the adage and still do, “no man is an island”. There is nothing like a loner’s success. The longevity of your success depends on your interdependent reality therefore, it is best to strive for co-winning than lone winning. Like the saying “everybody is a winner”, if u win, I win too.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
"I LOVE MY FRUIT"
...I’m All Grown...
Now, I’m Good For Nothing?
You’re Reaping What You’ve Sown
Think You Loved Me, You Were Sleeping!
In The Streets And Tunnels You Proclaim Experience
Meanwhile, I Wallow In Decadence
What Is Gain?
When I’m All Shame And Pain.
You Were Engrossed In Hugging
Busy Kissing
Left me Empty And Void
I am Destroyed!
I Became Unwise
Dined With Smelly Flies
Followed The Deadly Tide
Wish You Saw This Side.
Did You Really Love Me?
Did You Know Me?
Did You Scold Me?
You Never Flogged Me!
Your Fruit Is Sour,
Because You Missed The Timing And Hour
I’m In Dishonour
Now, You Become A Doctor?
Can’t You See It’s Too Late?
I’m A Wasted Craze
What A Menace?
Hope It’s A Passing Phase.
Now, I’m Good For Nothing?
You’re Reaping What You’ve Sown
Think You Loved Me, You Were Sleeping!
In The Streets And Tunnels You Proclaim Experience
Meanwhile, I Wallow In Decadence
What Is Gain?
When I’m All Shame And Pain.
You Were Engrossed In Hugging
Busy Kissing
Left me Empty And Void
I am Destroyed!
I Became Unwise
Dined With Smelly Flies
Followed The Deadly Tide
Wish You Saw This Side.
Did You Really Love Me?
Did You Know Me?
Did You Scold Me?
You Never Flogged Me!
Your Fruit Is Sour,
Because You Missed The Timing And Hour
I’m In Dishonour
Now, You Become A Doctor?
Can’t You See It’s Too Late?
I’m A Wasted Craze
What A Menace?
Hope It’s A Passing Phase.
Monday, February 16, 2009
JUST PULP AND COINS!
An old lady; well-advanced in age and a national hero. In all her years in national service, has encountered various kinds of human beings; all sorts. Men in power and men of power, men who progress with oppression and men humiliated due to their unshakable stance on dignity and humility. In retrospect, she counted the causes and found a common denominator; self-centeredness and greed. But, those are two denominators, you say. These two are bound together, if you are greedy, you keep wanting more for you alone, aren’t you self-centred?, and vice-versa.
The family, considered as the smallest unit of the society, springs the greatest minds and biggest names; small but mighty you could call it. Therefore, when the family is jeopardized, the society is dented and in shambles. In the midst of this prospect of greatness in the world at large, lie anxiety, fear, frustration, depression and all agents of destabilization that have eaten deep into the fabrics of this unit. Diving deeper to the root, just pulp and coins! This root evil is the cause of 90% of the friction in the family today. Little wonder a couple with one car, argue every morning on who uses the car, the argument escalates to the point that they become counter-productive, in the end become more reactive. Prior to the purchase of the car, they combined their proactive energies, understanding each other better. Consequently, little money started coming in, they got the car. Now, the car isn’t enough. Just a little more money they say to themselves and it would be just fine. The truth is if one car is not enough; you can’t have a happy home, then even five cars wouldn’t do. I tell you why, your arguments would progress to who uses the Rolls Royce today, in the end, we see get rich quick schemes in the society, corruption, corruption and more corruption. Again, a husband and father keeps amassing money, sending his children to the best schools, bringing in the best nannies, buying expensive jewellery for his wife. He has no time for family, just contracts and business interest him, after a while his family complains but, his resolute answer is “common, the money is for all of us”. Finally, his family is a nightmare. His daughter becomes a whore and his two sons become gang bangers, affecting the society too, all because they lacked their father’s love and rebuke.
It’s just never enough. People have lost their lives in the pursuit, families destroyed and ultimately societal ills emanate. Would you subordinate positive values for paper and metal? Inanimate objects? There has been the mistake of wealth as having plenty of money, a very wrong ideology. Money without love equals greed and self-centeredness. Wealth on the other hand, is the harmonious creation of positive actions that would achieve each party’s dreams and aspirations. It is money, love, good health, self-control, contentment, joy and understanding, embedded in a whole. This is true wealth. If every family ensures these in their daily target praxis, there would be utmost peace and happiness, even in the society
The family, considered as the smallest unit of the society, springs the greatest minds and biggest names; small but mighty you could call it. Therefore, when the family is jeopardized, the society is dented and in shambles. In the midst of this prospect of greatness in the world at large, lie anxiety, fear, frustration, depression and all agents of destabilization that have eaten deep into the fabrics of this unit. Diving deeper to the root, just pulp and coins! This root evil is the cause of 90% of the friction in the family today. Little wonder a couple with one car, argue every morning on who uses the car, the argument escalates to the point that they become counter-productive, in the end become more reactive. Prior to the purchase of the car, they combined their proactive energies, understanding each other better. Consequently, little money started coming in, they got the car. Now, the car isn’t enough. Just a little more money they say to themselves and it would be just fine. The truth is if one car is not enough; you can’t have a happy home, then even five cars wouldn’t do. I tell you why, your arguments would progress to who uses the Rolls Royce today, in the end, we see get rich quick schemes in the society, corruption, corruption and more corruption. Again, a husband and father keeps amassing money, sending his children to the best schools, bringing in the best nannies, buying expensive jewellery for his wife. He has no time for family, just contracts and business interest him, after a while his family complains but, his resolute answer is “common, the money is for all of us”. Finally, his family is a nightmare. His daughter becomes a whore and his two sons become gang bangers, affecting the society too, all because they lacked their father’s love and rebuke.
It’s just never enough. People have lost their lives in the pursuit, families destroyed and ultimately societal ills emanate. Would you subordinate positive values for paper and metal? Inanimate objects? There has been the mistake of wealth as having plenty of money, a very wrong ideology. Money without love equals greed and self-centeredness. Wealth on the other hand, is the harmonious creation of positive actions that would achieve each party’s dreams and aspirations. It is money, love, good health, self-control, contentment, joy and understanding, embedded in a whole. This is true wealth. If every family ensures these in their daily target praxis, there would be utmost peace and happiness, even in the society
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
LOVE IN PAIN
Hey! Whatever happened to that burning fire within? You loved everyone that came your way; never issued the label "unlovable". In every situation, you came out of the troubles of life stronger and full of excitement, ensuing negative experiences as the spring board to greater happiness.
Suddenly, all of this didn't make any sense. I mean why go through all this pain trying to ensure your value of loving-kindness, when there won't be any appreciation or reciprocation. Finally, realizing that nobody is worth being loved except you. If it was a true value in your deepest part, causing smiles in other people's heart though not visible or recognized and you knew someday, just someday, your labour of love would surely be remembered, possibly in your darkest moments, would you have abandoned this timely virtue? I don't think so. Like the saying "love conquers all", it's quite simple, there is no circumstance you pass through that can't be overcome, if you sowed the seed of love in someone you supposedly thought wasn't worth it.
In your life story, probably you were facing physical or emotional challenges; the people you expected would pull you up, left you aloof to suffer all alone. Consequently, you became dispirited, felt abandoned, finally fell in the doldrums reaching emotional threshold. The pain kept increasing; you decided scrapping every other person off your agenda, planning on staying all by yourself. I tell you what; you'll end up in a state of loneliness and dire depression. Ultimately, the door of death opens up.
Do you believe that in this moving train of life, love makes all things easy? You see, even in pain the expression of love should never diminish but intimately dissipate. In cognizance, consider a woman in her prime, in all her beauty and splendour is abused physically and emotionally but, has only one thing at the back of her mind, "love is a non-negotiable principle; I must love." In this state of mind, she would never lack happiness and don't you think she would affect her oppressor in the near future? You bet. So, what's the whole essence of beating yourself up, when you could take up positive attitudes and actions that could work wonders and miracles? I call this "hedging against your future with your present nurture."
Finally, you've concluded that nothing in this world can change that guy, that lady. Have you tried the entire positive actions there is? Of course not. One of the great minds once said "Never accept the negative until you have thoroughly explored the positive." Do you think you're hurt? Have you tried loving in that pain? It takes a high level of maturity, you say. Positivism is never far fetched; the problem is the resolve to remain entangled in the trap.
Suddenly, all of this didn't make any sense. I mean why go through all this pain trying to ensure your value of loving-kindness, when there won't be any appreciation or reciprocation. Finally, realizing that nobody is worth being loved except you. If it was a true value in your deepest part, causing smiles in other people's heart though not visible or recognized and you knew someday, just someday, your labour of love would surely be remembered, possibly in your darkest moments, would you have abandoned this timely virtue? I don't think so. Like the saying "love conquers all", it's quite simple, there is no circumstance you pass through that can't be overcome, if you sowed the seed of love in someone you supposedly thought wasn't worth it.
In your life story, probably you were facing physical or emotional challenges; the people you expected would pull you up, left you aloof to suffer all alone. Consequently, you became dispirited, felt abandoned, finally fell in the doldrums reaching emotional threshold. The pain kept increasing; you decided scrapping every other person off your agenda, planning on staying all by yourself. I tell you what; you'll end up in a state of loneliness and dire depression. Ultimately, the door of death opens up.
Do you believe that in this moving train of life, love makes all things easy? You see, even in pain the expression of love should never diminish but intimately dissipate. In cognizance, consider a woman in her prime, in all her beauty and splendour is abused physically and emotionally but, has only one thing at the back of her mind, "love is a non-negotiable principle; I must love." In this state of mind, she would never lack happiness and don't you think she would affect her oppressor in the near future? You bet. So, what's the whole essence of beating yourself up, when you could take up positive attitudes and actions that could work wonders and miracles? I call this "hedging against your future with your present nurture."
Finally, you've concluded that nothing in this world can change that guy, that lady. Have you tried the entire positive actions there is? Of course not. One of the great minds once said "Never accept the negative until you have thoroughly explored the positive." Do you think you're hurt? Have you tried loving in that pain? It takes a high level of maturity, you say. Positivism is never far fetched; the problem is the resolve to remain entangled in the trap.
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