THE CO-WIN STRIDE

In our daily activities, from our wake-up alarm to nightfall there is a part of our senses beckoning, “I must win!” in the real sense of it, it is “I must win alone!” I ask, at the expense of others?

We are all subject to our perceptions about life, aggravating the firmness of our “being right”. Our daily experiences gives birth to this perception but, the question is, isn’t negativity part of these experiences? If negativity is embodied in these experiences, certainly, our perceptions tilt the scale balance of life towards wrong misconceptions and consequently, our habitual deeds emanate from the negative side of life.

Contrariwise, our experiences could be positively tilted, giving rise to positive thoughts, actions and utmost happiness. No matter where the balance is tilted, there is good news for everybody, you can always win.

You ask, in negativity is that plausible or possible? It sure is. Negativity, like I wrote earlier is the finished product of a misguided perception. A win in this situation requires the will power to understand, and change your position. In daily occurrences, you think you suffer disappointments, selfish attitudes of people and so on. Meanwhile, there is a deeper misunderstanding of the real situation. Probably, you never asked or because of your misconception, you just go ahead and assume a lot of things. The end is breeding dislikes, hatred, frequent quarrels, insults, depression and all what not. Focusing your energy on negative feelings, thoughts and ultimately, becoming a failure. Look at it this way, what if your date’s father was terribly sick, that’s why he couldn’t show up? What if your subordinate’s daughter passed out? You still expect a call in that state? Come on, would you have had that kind of will power? I don’t think so. Truth is, we are so enveloped in our own ideological world, beating ourselves up for nothing, giving no room for pragmatism, finally getting no were.

Conversely, you call yourselves “positive thinkers”, thinking positive for your selfish ambitions at the detriment of others. Feeling you could think your way to success without co-dependence. I have bad news for you, it would be short-lived. Success without negativity is failure. You ask, what is he talking about? Incidentally, is there anybody bad in its entirety? Of course not, even in that negativity of a person or an event, there is a positive something, in a deeper sense. A woman with the habit of shouting and nagging all the time, a loquacious woman, is an idea for your family growth, business boom and so on. You could catch something from her. In the same vein, what would you do to a man with bad habits, never punctual, drinks to stupor but, is one of the most productive staff in your organization? Would you throw him out? I guess not. The list could go on and on.

Real success is the entirety of all kinds of human beings in a mutually beneficial relationship; it is the fruit of interdependence unto perfection. As a positive man or woman as you say you are, you should be at the helping end of life, imparting people while taking also one or two things from the opposite party that are beneficial to you, not throwing people away because of some negative, unproductive aspects of their life.

An efficacious legacy is a co-win stride to success. Never relegate anybody, no matter the attitude or behaviour because you never know, that could be the person taking you to your next level, that could change your life forever. I always loved the adage and still do, “no man is an island”. There is nothing like a loner’s success. The longevity of your success depends on your interdependent reality therefore, it is best to strive for co-winning than lone winning. Like the saying “everybody is a winner”, if u win, I win too.